Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Sunday, July 28, 2013
Something great is gonna come out of all this mess, trust me. Have faith in Him. These things, they make you learn and appreciate. Imagine having all the money in the world, but your family disrespect you. Or having all that, but during Raya you don't get to see your Dad because he needs to spend the day with his business partners. These are true stories and I don't want all that.
We didn't celebrate Raya together last year. This Raya, I hope that'll change.
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Ah, my favorite day of the week again.
I swear nowadays the days go by so fast, the next thing u know, it's just less than 2 weeks before Syawal come knocking on our doors. I have not prepared anything for Raya yet. Mak keeps on calling me reminding me what not to buy. I guess this Raya will be a little bit different. Definitely not as feisty as the previous years but I'm sure it will be more blessed, than ever.
My Ramadhan so far has been great, alhamdulillah. I spent some days breaking fast and terawikh with my cousin, nephews and niece, some days with my close friends, some days alone at home. But I think the best would have to be iftar and terawikh in Masjid Putra with my bestfriend.
"Ramadhan is not about eating, it is about feeding"
This, retweeted by Wardina, and I couldn't agree more. It's all about feeding the needy and feeding your soul. Just my two cents worth, sometimes I think this hoohaa of feeding the less fortunate during Ramadhan is kind of over-rated. 'Cos that's about the only time when you see their welfare being well taken care of. What happens to them during the rest of the year? Zakat alone is not enough. I don't have the figures to prove my point but just go visit an orphanage and take their word for it.
Speaking of Wardina, I was watching Nona the other day and they were talking about families celebrating Ramadhan. I respect how Wardina educate hers. What she does is that she instills the concept of Ramadhan being the month with the bigger celebration instead of Syawal. Most of us treat Ramadhan otherwise, right? So on the first day of Ramadhan itself before breaking fast, Wardina has put up balloons and other decorative items in her house as if they're going to celebrate a birthday. I think this is pretty clever. So gonna do the same for my kids.
Alright, I better get some sleep now. Been sleep-deprived for days now and tomorrow I sort of need to accompany someone's mum for Raya shopping. Anything to cure my missing my mum. *sobs* Patience Amy, merely 2 weeks more to the land of my favorite people!
Good night, peeps!
"Faith wears out in the heart of any one of you just as clothes wear out, so ask Allaah to renew the faith in your hearts."
Wednesday, July 24, 2013
Who, when a calamity befalls them, (by showing perseverance), say:
'Verily we belong to Allah, and certainly unto Him shall we return'.
Al-Baqarah Verse 156
I lost a niece today. She's only 12. At the moment, we don't know what would have caused her passing but according to her mum, she passed out in front of a clinic, turned blue and her mum rushed her to the hospital where she was pronounced dead. Sad news is, Monday was her first time fasting.
The last time I met her was last month. Her family came to KL to send her brother off for college. We met for dinner in Jalan TAR and as always, she will be super manja with me because she seldom sees me. Kak Weina this, Kak Weina that. She would insist to hold my hand and walk with me. Being an only daughter (youngest somemore), her family pampered her a lot since she was a baby and she would get whatever she wanted. She could be mischievous at times (to the point which may irritate some people) but she never mean any harm.
Her passing is a shock to everyone. I feel sorry especially towards her mother because they were so very close. And her mum is an amazing woman, I tell you. A very patient mother. I pray that they both will go to Jannah.
Tuesday, July 23, 2013
So far so good, right? But the one thing that I respect this man a lot for is how he treats our family, exactly like his own. They live quite near to my grandparents, so everyday, he would drop by my grandparents's to check out on them. Every single day. During Raya, he is one of the busiest man in our household, from fixing the lampu liplap outside to helping us ladies with the cooking in the kitchen. My own uncles are not even that 'busy'.
Saturday, July 20, 2013
"Babe, I have something to ask you."
That line alone made me a bit nervous, heh. You know like the "We need to talk" kinda thing. So we set a chat date over Facebook during lunch.
"I harap you dah bersedia dengan soalan ni", she
"U dah bersedia untuk date orang lain tak?"
My oh my. I thought this day will never come. To tell you the truth, I never thought of it ever since that fateful day. My focus was only to develop myself. But I was feeling somewhat my old happy self lately, (this has been reflecting in my work and my social attribute) so I said something along the line of "Yeah, I guess so."
Turned out, she wanted to introduce me to a couple of guys she knew from her freelancing work. You see the things a girlfriend would do for you! *sniff*
I laff you gorjes.
I think I'm ready. Well, I gotta start somewhere, right?
My only thought,
" Anything, or anyone, that brings me closer to God is definitely good."
Credits to Ariz.
Well, here goes nothing.
“I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.”
Thursday, July 18, 2013
2 months of being stronger.
Monday, July 15, 2013
Saturday, July 13, 2013
A fortnight ago, I had the pleasure of attending the 2nd Being Me sisters-only conference held in Putrajaya International Convention Centre. My first time to an Islamic conference and I have to say, I'm lucky despite purchasing the (sold-out) ticket last minute and had that last minute ticket bought by someone else just a day before the event, I managed to get a new ticket on the day of the event itself. Alhamdulillah.
Among the speakers for the event were Aizuddin Othman, Prof Dr. Muhaya, Br. Yusha Evans, Sis. Zohra Sarwari, Sis. Tasneem Ghauri, Prof. Dr. Zaleha. Sh. Alaa ElSayed including spoken word performance by bloggers Sis. Yasmin Zaini and Sis. Mubina Shafqat Ali. Sheikh Tawfique Chowdhury was also supposed to join us but his wife was in labor that very morning, so he couldn't make it.
Basically, Being Me - Muslimah Empowered, is a conference organised by women for women and is also the first women's conference in Malaysia by Mercy Mission to address the daily lives and challenges facing the Muslim women today. Yeah, the introduction taken from the booklet for the event >.<
Just to share some knowledge I've gained (or some notes I scribbled) during the conference (you know, cos Twitter only has a limit of 140 characters, so blog it is).
The most valuable part of the day is the last 5 minutes before you go to sleep, because that should be the time that you reflect on yourself, what happened during the day and what are you going to do about it the next day.
To have a good partner, you need to learn to forgive. Those who are not able to forgive themselves will not be able to forgive others.
The 2 most important days in a man's life is the day you were born and the day you discover why you were born.
Whatever you do, you get back.
The 4 stages in a man's life :
1) athletic - the stage where we often worry about how we look
2) warrior - the go-getter stage, always fighting to be the best (stressful stage)
3) wisdom/adventurer - the best stage, where we're physically tired, but spiritually enlightened
4) enlightenment - there's only Allah in our heart and we detach ourselves from whatever outcome. At this stage, we're independent of the opinion of others. Nice.
Remedy to suppress anger :
1) Accept others for what they are
2) Correct your mind, not other people
There's a session by Prof Dr Muhaya on 'Garment for One Another'. Silly me to be thinking that the talk was about how to dress appropriately as a muslimah. Turned out it's about spouses being the perfect complement for each other, providing comfort, protection, cover and support. Just like our garments. The title is so cool like that, kan?
So there's 2 types of garments :
Out-in : They appear as any other normal couple, but deep down, they are not happy (mediocre living)
In-out : To live inside out, more focused on developing themselves to achieve the state of being perfect garments for each other.
If you're busy looking at others, you'll never look at yourself.
75% of sickness comes from the mind.
Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy
(this leads to the law of expectation)
Prof Dr Muhaya suggested a book entitled 'Biology of Belief'. I scribbled 'LOOK OUT FOR THIS BOOK!' in my notes, so ....
Until you are in Allah's zone, you will never find peace and happiness.
To have inner peace for you to get a good garment, you need to be able to :
1) be inspired
4) spiritual connection with Allah
Difference between motivation and inspiration?
Motivation - To have a motive for your action and in return, you get rewarded.
Inspiration - Finding meaning in everything that you do.
Successful people make choices, committed people do whatever it takes.
Children within the year of :
0-7 -> sponge mode; absorb everything they see
7-14 -> role-modelling after who/what they see
Put children in good environment, like stem cells.
BE EXPENSIVE, BE EXCLUSIVE
Point to remember, sisters :
How do we dress? Are we with Allah all the time?
For every 1 patient a doctor treats, 17000 angels (malaikat) pray for you.
Cancers are made out from people who worry a lot.
3 types of aura :
spiritual - with Allah
emotional - love, kindness, joy, generosity
Seretonin - hormone for happiness. Nice.
Those who show do not have, those who know do not know.
Reflect on this.
Forgiveness strengthens you, Anger weakens you.
2 thieves in life :
1) fear of tomorrow
2) regret of the past
Untuk mencari redha Allah, you need to :
1) be specific - to have a good career, a good muslimah
2) be focused - on your dakwah Islamiah
3) have unwavering faith - keyakinan yang tak putus-putus
4) have deepness of gratitude - choose your thoughts
Istiqamah of being good :
2) good friends
3) good journal - finding knowledge non-stop
"If he's really serious, he'll ask your Dad"
That's a good one.
A woman is half of an ummah, and she gives birth to the other half of the ummah.
So, she is the whole of an ummah.
So, that's about it. Honestly, I never would have thought that I would be able to convince myself to attend one of these conferences, at least not yet. But you know, life has its points and its turnings, and I am forever thankful for this nudge to this direction. Weird thing is, I realize that the more I learn, out of nowhere, friends (and even strangers) came and share knowledge and experiences and guidance. Masha Allah, He who listens and knows all things (Quran 2: 256)
Okay, this entry is getting pretty lengthy now so I'll just include some photos that I managed to capture during the event.
Miracle: something or someone that fills our heart with joy
Saturday, July 6, 2013
And speaking of marriage, honestly I've always wondered what does it mean when they say "To enter a marriage in the name of Allah." What I used to think is that, I thought you get married in the name of love, so how can you get married if you don't love the person you're marrying? How do you do it in the name of Allah? I mean, yes you can say it aloud, I'm marrying him/her in the name of Allah but how do you justify it with your actions? Been thinking about this for quite a long time now and I think I may have found the answer in this video.