The Wedding Guide Asia has just recently updated their article on differentiating between your Mr Right.. and Mr Right-Now.. hehe.. It's a good read, I must say, as I am also one of those who tend to fall recklessly in love, and then ending up hurting myself.. so here's some pointers, ladies (and for myself too) :)
Your First Date moments
First impressions always leave an overbearing taste (be it bitter or sweet) in your mouth.
Mr. Right-now may… lavish you with peonies, a four-course meal at The Wolseley, ending the date with a dance to Sinatra.
But he’s certainly Mr. Right if… he remembers every single detail of your date, from what you wore, to the perfume you used. Most importantly, he will remember that you not only looked gorgeous on the outside, he will also realise what a beautiful person you are on the inside.
Second Date disasters
We all go through the ‘Will he call, won’t he call’ moments! And when he finally does?
Mr. Right-now may… pull strings to get you into the hottest sushi bar (you know there’s a six-months waiting list), followed by champagne and fireworks display overlooking the harbour.
But he’s certainly Mr. Right if… he behaves like a perfect gentleman, is attentive in conversations and laughs even at your appalling jokes. Most importantly, still gave you a peck on your cheek even though you realised later when you got home, that you had spinach in your teeth.
The Honeymoon period
We all love finding out new things about somebody, getting to know what they like whilst enjoying the company of each other; this I think, is the fun bit of a relationship.
Mr. Right-now may… arrange picnics in the park, tickets at the theatre and a trip to Paris (just to pick up some Macarons)
But he’s certainly Mr. Right if… the blue boxes he lavishes you with always came with a little hand-written note inside. A watch is but a watch without a story to tell, but it is the note inside that always brings a tear to your eyes: ‘You bring meaning to the TIME in my life’.
As the going gets tough
As you settle into your comfortable selves, the grinds of daily life kick in. Juggling work, friends, family and a relationship is often tricky.
Mr. Right-now may… bring you lunch at work, charm your friends at the weekend and make your aunties laugh at Grandpa’s 70th birthday.
But he’s certainly Mr. Right if… he listens when you moan about your boss, rescues your locked-out sister when you are out of town, but most importantly, in times of despair and sadness, holds your hand and tells you it’s going to be alright.
Finally, wise words from some of the WGA team:
When you feel completely at home with that person! They may not be perfect, but you love even their flaws – Stephanie
When a guy knows he wants to be with me, there would be no hesitation on his part to marry me. In a way, I knew he was the one when he instantly knew I washis Mrs. Right – Alia
When he didn’t complain about my coffee. That’s (hopefully) a lifetime of early mornings saved :) -Evanna
When I realised that no matter what I was facing, be it ‘ups’ or ‘downs’ he was always there for me –Elaine
So, what's YOUR interpretation of Mr Right? Mind sharing?
Today I had the entire day doing nothing, so what I did when I first got logged on this morning was this Love Language Profile. It deciphers how you communicate with your loved one best. It's actually a test for husbands/wives but no harm trying right?
And my score was as below.
I actually got a tie of 9 points for both Quality Time and Physical Touch. This means that my best method of communication (otherwise known as my own love language) are those 2 languages. Am quite surprised that Words of Affirmation is only 2.
Pretty accurate it seems, as I am the type who love quality time with my loved one, undivided attention and all, no sharing, mind you :P I love spending time doing what I love most with him :) And I love hugs and caresses, doesn't matter with who ;)
So, when your loved one doesn't say he loves you much, or he doesn't shower you with extravagant gifts much, he probably has another love language he's been using to convey his love towards you. Might be one of the 5 languages above,who knows ;)
There's a Malay proverb which sounds something like this, 'Penantian satu penyiksaan', which means to wait is a torturous process. It is, isn't it?
Especially when you're not even sure how the ending will be like. Or if there is any ending at all. And, like I've mentioned in one of my previous post, I don't really like waiting.
The other day I was thinking of how most of my life is pretty much determined by what others expect me to do. Get good grades, take piano/English/etc lessons, get bombastic degree results (although it didn't happen), get a good job (ya rite), molded to be the cream of the crop yada yada.. only to get nothing in the end.
And I think now I've had enough of living up to other's expectations because I just want to be happy. I don't want to be instructed, I want freedom and I want what I really want. I guess now I'm just sick of everything.
You need to count your blessings, girl.
When I count my blessings, I count you twice.
Ya, I guess I've got to. It's just that sometimes it's a bit unfair. Work is one thing, relationship is another. I've got a friend who met her first love while studying in Uni, got herself a decent job, got married to the same love (who by the way is now an engineer), and is now happily married. I'm happy to hear her talk about her daily life with her partner, how they interact openly, how they tease each other just because their hearts alone is full with love.
I love to see their happiness and they deserve each other :))
I'm still carving my path and I hope I'll find happiness in everything, insyallah.
اَلْخـَبِيـْثــاَتُ لِلْخَبِيْثـِيْنَ وَ اْلخَبِيْثُــوْنَ لِلْخَبِيْثاَتِ وَ الطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلطَّيِّبِيْنَ وَ الطَّيِّبُوْنَ لِلطَّيِّبَاتِ.
“ Wanita-wanita yang tidak baik untuk laki-laki yang tidak baik, dan laki-laki yang tidak baik adalah untuk wanita yang tidak baik pula. Wanita yang .baik untuk lelaki yang baik dan lelaki yang baik untuk wanita yang baik. (Qs. An Nur:26)
It's torturous but this is what I wanted and it's worth all the pain ;)